Avoid these common mistakes when talking to women... Make these mistakes and 9 times out of 10, your attempts at attraction... Will fail.
Rule #4: Avoid the common pitfalls
There are a number mistakes the vast majority of men make when they try to talk to and pick-up women. You clearly must avoid these if you want a good chance of successfully attracting and seducing a hot girl yourself. There are five main pitfalls you should always make sure you avoid. These are:
- Asking the girl too many questions
One of the biggest problems you can face when you want to pick-up a girl is the fact that she knows that’s what you’re trying to do. As soon as she’s sure she knows what you’re after, especially if she hasn’t already taken a liking to you, you may as well forget it – it’s game over. Asking too many questions is one way guys make it clear that they’re trying to pick-up the woman they’re talking to. When you fire question after question at a girl it looks like you’re trying to shortcut your way to getting to know her. And the main reason a guy might want to do this, of course, is if he’s looking to pick her up and seduce her.
Don’t get me wrong, though. Asking questions IS a good thing, no, it’s a VITAL thing to do when you talk to women. But you must limit the number of questions you ask her and choose them carefully. Asking too many not only seems like you’re trying too hard to get to know her, it also feels unnatural. Real conversations, in which people truly bond with each other, are two-sided and balanced.
- Opening the conversation with your name
Never tell a girl your name as the first thing you do when you open/first begin talking to her. The reason you shouldn’t is because it serves no positive function. Every guy has a name and you want to stand out from the crowd, so there’s no good reason to tell her it.
You want the girls you chat with to be aching to find out your name because you’ve made such a great impression. So, keep mysterious and hold back your name and other everyday details (like what you do for a living, etc.) until later on in your conversations.
- Using canned pick-up lines (chat-up lines)
If a guy uses a pick-up line on a girl and seems to make it work, it’s a sure thing that success has been achieved in spite of the line and not because of it. That’s because pick-up lines are dead – you may as well forget them. 10 or more years ago you could use one and it wouldn’t sound like a clichéd attempt to get into a girl’s pants, but that’s not true any more. Pick-up lines stand out a mile as what they are: jokes and witty comments that have been pre-written to impress a girl. Its mainly the lack of spontaneity and the “one line fits all” mentality that makes most girls so unimpressed by pick-up lines these days, so avoid them and use other conversational techniques instead.
- Being subordinate to women
A LOT of guys do this when they talk to women. Being subordinate means ranking second to the girl you’re chatting to – clearly something you don’t want to do. Usually men act subordinate unintentionally by agreeing with everything the girl says to an unnatural degree. It’s like she can’t say a single thing wrong – everything is funny, everything is interesting, everything is correct. When you act in this way, the girl picks up on it and subconsciously categorizes you as a subordinate guy – and subordinate guys aren’t attractive. Instead, you need to focus on responding as naturally as you can to the things the girl says. If you disagree, say so. It’s okay as long as aren’t hostile about it – you’ll actually earn her respect for it.
- Never buy a woman a drink!
Buying drinks and giving compliments to girls is another way men accidentally act in a subordinate, unattractive manner around women. Rule number one: never buy a woman a drink. Think about it logically. What reason is there for you to do so? If you don’t know her and she doesn’t know you, you don’t owe her anything and she knows that. When you buy her a drink she feels like she’s got something for nothing – you’ve given her control of the social situation. So, never, ever buy a girl a drink when you first meet her. If you’re ever going to buy her one, remember only to do it once she’s earned it.
Giving compliments is another pitfall many guys unwittingly fall into when talking to women. They feel like they need to constantly praise and flatter the girl to make her feel good about herself and, in turn, about them. Compliments CAN be an amazing tool in your pick-up bag of tricks, but used wrongly they can effectively destroy your chances of attracting and seducing women.
The general rule is: don’t give a girl a compliment within the first 10 minutes of meeting her and only give sincere compliments on aspects of her appearance or personality that are genuinely positive and that warrant such praise after that time.
Now, onto rule number 5. Appear confident, independent and socially high ranking at all times.
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