You MUST APPEAR to be confident, independant and socially high ranking if you want to attract and seduce women... You don't HAVE to actually BE it...
Rule #5: Appear confident, independent and socially high-ranking
This is a biggie, but an absolute necessity if you want to have a lot of success seducing women.
Let’s start with confidence.
To be honest, talking about it has almost become a cliché, but nevertheless projecting an air of true confidence when around women is a must if you want them to find you attractive.
There’s no single method of becoming confident, simply because self-assuredness and self-belief can be complex and difficult things to develop if you don’t already have them. That said, there are ways. I recommended checking out the confidence section at FeedYourGame.com first.
It’ll teach you how to be confident throughout all stages of picking-up women, from approaching them, to talking to them, to getting their numbers, etc.
Now, appearing independent.
Notice I said “appearing” and not “being”. There’s a crucial difference. Of course it’s preferable to actually be an independent sort of guy, but if you aren’t particularly free-spirited or headstrong, it’s okay to simply appear to be that way. After all, people only form an opinion on you based on what they can see and hear.
If you externally seem to be independent, that’s what they’ll see you as.
You might be wondering what I mean by ‘independent’. Basically, it means being your own man and someone who is strong and experienced enough to not be afraid of getting things done, experimenting and generally facing challenges head-on.
Of course, to let women know you’re independent, you need to tell them.
Do this without explicitly saying you’re independent though. Instead, just infer that you are. Tell her about experiences you’ve had that themselves exhibit and demonstrate your confidence and independence, like adventurous vacations you’ve been on, etc. But remember not to come across as a show-off or as being big-headed.
It’s when you hit the middle-ground – by showing that you’re confident and independent while remaining modest and interested in her stories and experiences – that you really attract the girl you’re chatting to.
The socially high-ranking part of this rule really comes as a result of combining independence with confidence.
To be socially high-ranking, you need to possess special characteristics in larger quantities than most other men. So, to be a socially high-ranking car salesman you would have to sell more cars than the majority of other salesman. Or write a book on the art of selling cars that sells a million copies.
Basically, you need to excel in your field. In the field of attraction and seduction, to appear socially high-ranking to women (and to therefore be considered attractive) you need to be confident, independent and socially proficient, amongst other things.
Check out the next golden rule for more of an insight into what I mean. Treat 'em mean and keep 'em keen!
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